We build our lives and our relationships on the foundations of expectations...
Expectations we have from ourselves, expectations we have from others, expectations from certain days, lives and events....
Our lives are built on this soil of expectations. Sometimes soft and porous , helping us grow and yet sometimes hard and difficult as a rock... Expectations can work either ways...
Great expectations from oneself lead one to aspire for bigger achievements and is only motivational which is a of course a good thing! Like the fertile soils of a rich land they can help one bloom and realize one's true potential. The problem however arises when we have expectations out of others. What should or shouldn't be done by them, what should or shouldn't be said by them! This is the root cause for many a problems. At this point our expectations become like solid rock - rigid, strong and even brittle. They give way ever so often leaving us feeling neglected, unwanted and blue... Contemplation only reveals the cause to be expectation. Someone or something just did not match up to our expectations.
Why have expectations ? Why can't we build our lives free of this soil....? Can these be transformed ?
No matter how much I steer of this one folly, i find myself drifting towards it every now and then. As a relationship deepens or a friendship blossoms, we start building a framework in our mind of how things should be... we start expecting. And then our expectations keep increasing till the point that they are not realized and then we are stranded with a broken heart or a troubled mind. I am lost in the maze of expectations and i see myself struggling to get out of this vicious cycle ever so often. I do manage to but then its never without a blue day and quite a few hours of introspection.... I try to bubble wrap my relationships so that they are not drowned in this flood of expectations but rarely am i successful in my endeavors.
I wish I knew...a way to escape from this maze. To stop expecting and to be able to live each day and each relationship as a new beginning.
Expectations we have from ourselves, expectations we have from others, expectations from certain days, lives and events....
Our lives are built on this soil of expectations. Sometimes soft and porous , helping us grow and yet sometimes hard and difficult as a rock... Expectations can work either ways...
Great expectations from oneself lead one to aspire for bigger achievements and is only motivational which is a of course a good thing! Like the fertile soils of a rich land they can help one bloom and realize one's true potential. The problem however arises when we have expectations out of others. What should or shouldn't be done by them, what should or shouldn't be said by them! This is the root cause for many a problems. At this point our expectations become like solid rock - rigid, strong and even brittle. They give way ever so often leaving us feeling neglected, unwanted and blue... Contemplation only reveals the cause to be expectation. Someone or something just did not match up to our expectations.
Why have expectations ? Why can't we build our lives free of this soil....? Can these be transformed ?
No matter how much I steer of this one folly, i find myself drifting towards it every now and then. As a relationship deepens or a friendship blossoms, we start building a framework in our mind of how things should be... we start expecting. And then our expectations keep increasing till the point that they are not realized and then we are stranded with a broken heart or a troubled mind. I am lost in the maze of expectations and i see myself struggling to get out of this vicious cycle ever so often. I do manage to but then its never without a blue day and quite a few hours of introspection.... I try to bubble wrap my relationships so that they are not drowned in this flood of expectations but rarely am i successful in my endeavors.
I wish I knew...a way to escape from this maze. To stop expecting and to be able to live each day and each relationship as a new beginning.
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