People have opinions and people have clarity on almost all issues.... I wonder why so very often I am unable to make up my mind... !! Why are my scales never functioning so well so that i can decide...
Well...i guess, to decide about anything it is important that the decision makes a difference to you. On a lot of occasions the consequence of the decision hardly matters to me and so i guess i fail to decide... But that's only a partial explanation ...
Because, for the rest of the occasions, even when the nature of the decision does matter, I am still unable to decide most of the times ! I wonder how others manage to have such strong opinions about everything.... bracket people as good or bad, say things as right or wrong ? I wonder how they completely fail to see reason in another view point... Why cant I have such clarity ?
Why is it that i see sense in every possible view point presented to me... ? Why is it that i am no longer able to see the world in black and white ? From the world of blacks and whites, i found the world of the grays - not the simple single shaded gray but a world of grays with hues and shades differing by degrees that one couldn't possibly imagine.Why are there so many grays ? Grays that numb your senses and dull you into inert acceptance ? Why am i able to see the grays all the time and not be able to judge them for their merits ? Why am i so confused every time ? Why is it that when taking a stand I see both view points with so much clarity that i am unable to pick up the one i see as more right ? Why am i left to just presenting the contrary view to a person on hearing his opinion... ? How do others navigate through this never ending world of options and opinions ? How do they find so much clarity ? Is their clarity irrational and whimsical or are they making the "right" or the "easy" choices along the way irrespective of what they believe in ?
Well...i guess, to decide about anything it is important that the decision makes a difference to you. On a lot of occasions the consequence of the decision hardly matters to me and so i guess i fail to decide... But that's only a partial explanation ...
Because, for the rest of the occasions, even when the nature of the decision does matter, I am still unable to decide most of the times ! I wonder how others manage to have such strong opinions about everything.... bracket people as good or bad, say things as right or wrong ? I wonder how they completely fail to see reason in another view point... Why cant I have such clarity ?
Why is it that i see sense in every possible view point presented to me... ? Why is it that i am no longer able to see the world in black and white ? From the world of blacks and whites, i found the world of the grays - not the simple single shaded gray but a world of grays with hues and shades differing by degrees that one couldn't possibly imagine.Why are there so many grays ? Grays that numb your senses and dull you into inert acceptance ? Why am i able to see the grays all the time and not be able to judge them for their merits ? Why am i so confused every time ? Why is it that when taking a stand I see both view points with so much clarity that i am unable to pick up the one i see as more right ? Why am i left to just presenting the contrary view to a person on hearing his opinion... ? How do others navigate through this never ending world of options and opinions ? How do they find so much clarity ? Is their clarity irrational and whimsical or are they making the "right" or the "easy" choices along the way irrespective of what they believe in ?
3 comments:
Interesting post.. The balance between being aware of all the perspectives and choices, and choosing one of the several is always a tough one. I would disagree with this though- "Grays that numb your senses and dull you into inert acceptance" - I think being able to see the grays leads you to aware acceptance, not a numb disinterest.. :)
There is a passage in Cry the beloved country that I think of often..part of it is- "I shall no longer ask myself if this or that is expedient, but only if it is right. I shall do this, not because I am noble or unselfish, but because life slips away, and because I need for the rest of my journey a star that will not play false to me, a compass that will not lie."
A star that will not play false to 'me'- While several paths and options may seem right and acceptable to several different people, at a time when the choice is one's own, I find it more coherent to consider-is it right for me, regardless of what other circumstances and personalities may choose, which may also be equally correct.
Well... I never have it so clear given so many options... :)
So many times, when i do not have the clarity to make a decision, i just don't make a decision and let things take their own course... I drift...And then eventually i do find the clarity !!! This is why i chose to write "inert acceptance"... I guess, in situations where i can make a choice, selfish or not so selfish, i do stick with it and i do go through with it regardless of what may be right for anyone else. The problem is only when i am lost myself... because both view points make sense in their own right...
I do like the passage there though... "I shall do this, not because I am noble or unselfish, but because life slips away, and because I need for the rest of my journey a star that will not play false to me, a compass that will not lie." Very true !! We all need a sense of direction and purpose that only we can find and no one can give to us...
Grt post.. From the world of universal truths and morals,when you drill down to individual perspectives, it becomes quite complex. I have been in similar situations where I could see every point of view so clearly that making a decision is so convoluted. I have seen myself grow this way , from saying "this is bad" to saying "i don't like it" :) The path from absolute truths to perspectives is always a rough one and I think if we do not maintain the balance between certain solid ideas and individual perspectives , the world will become too complex to handle.
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